No tags yet.
Well up until 2 years ago (when my nephew got married) i was the Yeni Gelin.... (new bride)
Yes even after 8 years i was still classed as the Yeni Gelin cause no one else in the family had got married.
I'm now just the Gelin 🙄
To me its all a little strange i hated being called a Gelin ok fair enough when you get married but after???
So when ever i am spoken about or any other lady married into the family you are called a Gelin.
Ok thats their way and that is what you are there is no changing it but to me its understanding why after so long you are called it and not only by Anne and Baba but by my brother in law and Sister in laws families, but how am I their Gelin???
It gets so confusing as to why and i still don't get it why not just say my brothers wife??? Gelin just means bride so then surely next question especially as im a yabanci (foreigner) is whos wife??? Who married the yabanci??
Cause the Turkish especially women like to gossip and know the ins and outs. Surely if you just said brothers wife to start with would avoid more questions.
But alas they like a good story so the more questions asked the better the story right?? and you can guarantee that story will be told to all in sundry over next day or two haha 😁
As a typical Gelin married into the family you would traditionally be expected to move into the husbands family home and serve his family, until.you get your own house.
By serve i don't necessarily mean to be a servant (although in some families it could be debatable from what ive seen)
But your role as a wife is to stay at home cook and clean have babies etc etc and be a traditional house wife as it was back in the day in the UK too.
Things are changing in Turkey and its not always like that now I see many living together before marriage, buying a house before they get married so they dont have to live with the in laws etc.
But my husband is from a village and although he is very westernized in his ways and what he expects from me his family are not.
Luckily for my husband i have always wanted to get married have kids and be the stay at home wife. Not necessarily to the extent the Turkish expect but he could have choosen someone very different 😂
Being a Yabanci Yeni gelin can be tough to start with especially if before hand like me you don't know what to expect when you get married cause at the time we were in love and wanted to get married and have kids but we never really looked past that, the different cultures, what would he expect from you once married and vice versa. Because of this we have had many ups and downs arguements and disagreements but as long as you discuss and compromise then all should be good